Wednesday, December 31, 2008
Sunday, December 28, 2008
This time in the deployment feels heavy, for a lack of a better word. It's hard right now to keep a smile on my face and say that things are just fine. Because if I'm being honest, I don't feel like things are fine. I know that military spouses are a unique breed and that it takes a lot of sacrifice to keep things together while their spouse is away.
I found this neat poem, and although I have never ironed my husband's uniform more than once, packed a seabag for him, or made a meal for 14 hungry sailors with 30 minutes notice, it says it all.
The Navy Wife
A Navy Wife is no ordinary woman. Operating for months at a time without the companionship or assistance of her husband, she routinely overcomes challenges that would give the average person a nervous breakdown.
Part Doctor, part Teacher and part Handyman, she can lavish loving care on a sick toddler, help a teenager with his Algebra homework, and track down a faulty circuit breaker -- all while holding down a full time job.
With thirty minutes notice, she can serve breakfast, lunch, or dinner to fourteen hungry Sailors, and still somehow balance her family's meager grocery budget.
She can press a set of dress whites to inspection standards, tie a perfect square knot in a military neckerchief, and pack a seabag in the cold hours before dawn.
For months at a time, she must settle for letters instead of kisses, emails in place of hugs, and long-distance phone calls in lieu of her husband's touch. She manages a smile when her Sailor is at sea for the second Anniversary in a row, and accepts the fact that there's a one-in-three chance that he will have to stand Duty on her Birthday. She has learned to stand on a pier and wave goodbye without tears, even when her heart is breaking.
To her children, she is Chauffeur, Umpire, Psychologist, Spiritual Advisor, Financial Consultant, part-time Father, Tooth Fairy, Santa Clause, and the Easter Bunny. To her husband, she is Friend, Lover, Partner, Confidant, and Soul-Mate.
She is a patriot. She is the sort of citizen that all of us should be, but so few of us are. She lives with sacrifice, because she believes in the rights and ideals that her husband defends. Although she wears no uniform, she is a part of that defense -- a vital link in the chain of Freedom. Although she wears no medals and will reap no glory on the field of battle, she is a hero in the truest sense of the word. She is a Navy Wife.
Thursday, December 25, 2008
Tuesday, December 23, 2008
He loves the 2nd grade. He is a great student and wants to do well in school. He is taking piano lessons. He is very social and likes to have lots of friends. He is quite the inquisitive child, asking questions about everything! He likes to go online and learn about everything from animals to geography to big foot and the sinking of the titanic. Then he wants to tell you about everything he learns! He loves Bakugan. He cares about others and animals. He is so sweet and is a wonderful son.
Happy Birthday Noah!
Sunday, December 21, 2008
Saturday, December 20, 2008
Thursday, December 18, 2008
Well, I had to fish it out before I could flush and I was not very happy about it (luckliy it was #1.) I washed my hands and the phone off as best I could, which was not easy an easy task with the sinks having motion sensors on the water faucets. It took forever to get enough water to rinse the soap off my hands since the water didn't come out for more than 3 seconds at a time. Then, I rubbed hand sanitizer all over the phone thinking that had to help kill those toilet germs. I tried to make a call to see if the phone worked but I could barely hear... and besides that I wasn't happy about having to use the toilet phone anymore. Then it started vibrating and I couldn't turn it off, so I just took the battery out of it.
Lily was so good while all this was going on and she kept asking me if I was OK and if we could buy more gum. She's such a sweetie pie, and yes, I bought more gum.
Not having a phone is not an option for me, especially since I just cancelled the service for our house phone earlier in the week....no one ever called us on it anyway, except solicitors. So, I promptly found an AT&T store and was able to get a new phone in time at all. I got the most inexpensive one they had and it is still nicer than my old one. The nice gentleman helping me got a kick out of my story and after getting the sim card out of my phone, he used plenty of hand sanitizer!
So, all in all everyting turned out fine, so having my phone fall in the toilet at Wal-mart didn't turn out to be such a bad thing after all.
Monday, December 15, 2008
Saturday, December 13, 2008
She can walk! She has 2 teeth. She is a very happy baby. She has Nana wrapped around her finger. She enjoys pulling all of the pots and pans out of the cabinets, and then bangs them as loudly as she can. She loves to play in the toilet if she can get away with it. She is a pro at pulling books off of a shelf and can empty one in 30 seconds or less. She claps and dances when she hears music, especially to the "Katy song." She waves bye-bye. She likes to play peek-a-boo!
Today we had a birthday party for Katy with the family. She wore the same dress that I wore at my 1st birthday party. Aunt Carol and Uncle Ed came over and made it extra special and fun. I think Katy really enjoyed making a mess with the cake and by the time she was finished she had frosting all over her. I put her straight into the bathtub for a thorough clean-up!
Friday, December 12, 2008
The Joint National Committee on Prevention, Detection, Evaluation, and Treatment of Mommy Brain announced its latest guidelines just yesterday, stating that “Not all Mommy Brain, is the same.”
This is only the first of hopefully many steps that will be taken to help treat Mommy Brain, which was officially diagnosed last Monday. But mothers have felt the symptoms and their families have experienced the effects of Mommy Brain for centuries.
“I knew something was different right after we came home from the hospital,” said Iam Spacey of the moment in which she put a soiled diaper in the laundry basket and the babies onesie in the trash.
“I knew something was wrong when I opened my lunch at work one day and found fruit roll ups and Lunchables inside,” said one tearful husband. “I mean, if you think I was devastated, consider our poor son who opened up his lunch at school to find a Turkey wrap and tomato juice. Our son doesn’t eat that kind of stuff. The poor kid came home starving!”
Others have reported similar experiences ranging from simple things like finding the milk in the cupboard and the cereal in the fridge to more serious events like the one that happened to Anita Nadvil of Orem Utah.“All I wanted to do was be a good mom!” wailed Anita as she recounted the scary experience. “I was just trying to sanitize the binkies! I never would have forgotten about them if I didn’t have Mommy Brain!”But Anita Nadvil did forget about the boiling binkies. When she emerged from the babies bedroom after a diaper change, the house was filled with haze and smelled of melting plastic. Luckily, quick thinking prevented disaster. She turned off the burner, then escorted her two children out of the house until the toxic fumes cleared out.
Yes Mommy Brain seems to be running rampant these days. For those who have already had children, there is no prevention. Some form of Mommy brain exists in all Mommy’s. Some women have decided not to have children in hopes of avoiding the condition, though this won’t guarantee against similar conditions arising. Even the most healthy of non-child bearing women come down with cases of absent mindedness or worse.
For victims of Mommy Brain there is no cure, but a good support network and a strong resolve can make a world of difference.“I write notes to myself all the time,” says Anita Postit of Portland Oregon. “Like if I have to pay rent by a certain date, I stick a note saying so on my desk. Otherwise I forget.”
For some women, even that is not enough. One mother, wishing to stay anonymous because of the severity of her condition reports that she has to tape her rent or video rentals to the door in order to remember them before she goes out.
In spite of the differences in progression of Mommy Brain in all of the women mentioned in this article, they share one common thread - A good support system. Husbands who tease them and help them laugh at their Mommy Brain moments. Mother’s who sympathize and offer suggestions. Children who love them no matter what Mommy Brain moment they have next.
Of course not all victims of Mommy Brain have a good support system in their home and community, but more and more of them are finding support in an online community of mommy bloggers. These mommy bloggers are mother’s who are willing to share their Mommy Brain moments in order to help others going through the same thing to feel they are not alone.
It has become a lifeline to some with severe cases.“Reading stories from other Mommy Brain victims on the blogs is so great!” says Imjus Truthful. “It’s therapeutic to be able to laugh at the stories of mom’s who have it worse than you do.”
If you’d like to learn more about Mommy Brain you can visit the official website at: http://mommybrainvictimsrus.com/
If you would like to donate to research for treatments and a cure for Mommy Brain call:1-800-BRAINLSTogether, we can make great strides in helping victims of Mommy Brain around the world.
Originally published February 11, 2008 at summersnook.com
Thursday, December 11, 2008
Santa visited Lily's preschool yesterday, and I was excited for her to sit on his lap for the first time. She sat patiently and waited until it was her turn and didn't seem nervous at all. When he asked her what she wanted for Christmas, she didn't say a word. She didn't say anything the entire time she was on his lap but she didn't scream or cry either.
Sunday, December 07, 2008
It was pretty crazy for awhile there but then everything calmed down again. And, now all three kids are in bed asleep, hopefully for the night.